Domination Cams – Mistress Thoughts on Dominating her slave
So where does domination phone sex fit in here?
First off… as you may have noticed, I don’t really like to call it “Phone Sex”. Yes, that is the proper, generic expression, and maybe I’m being overly critical in a way, but to me “Phone Sex” brings to mind the common expectations of a writhing woman fucking or sucking or whatever. That’s not me or what I do. I prefer to call it what it is – Domination Phone Sex, Phone Domination, Femdom Phone Sex, you get the idea. One might say I’m being picky but actually I’m just being clear in both my descriptions and intentions.
Much of what I talk about on the phone I have done in some way in real life, which is the main reason why I got involved with domination in the first place – it’s a reflection of my actual tendencies and a further way for me to enjoy them.
I can’t say that the conversations I have always revolve around scenarios I personally would have thought up, but even those that are truly warped can still be fun because I have a twisted sense of humour and deeply enjoy perversion.
That’s why I shock many I speak to (though the shock is a welcome one ~grinz~). It’s not just that I have a high tolerance for depravity, but it’s also that I can speak about things to a degree and depth most can’t. The reason – because much of what I talk about I really have done face-to-face with other people. My experiences are founded in actual life events, not my imagination… particularly when it comes to domination.
All of the domination cams sessions I do, I hope to enjoy (or at the very least be amused by) and what I do in them stays true to my personality. Some are scenarios I would already do in real life (and often already have) or things I might try if the chance presented itself.
Others are things that might be unrealistic or impossible, but here domination phone sex shows its worth in another way – you can let your inhibitions go, and just explore and enjoy in ways you really couldn’t otherwise.
Sure there are also fantasies that can be pretty twisted ~laughs~ but those are usually just so crazy that I get a rush off the near-sexual insanity of them, and so they are worth it in another way. I like a lot of things, and I am damn open-minded… and I don’t see extremes so much as limits, but as a dangerous and exciting edge to balance on.
What I don’t get involved with are cam shows that are in conflict with who I am, or require me to engage in behaviours or roles that insult my integrity as a woman.
It’s called domination webcams for a reason… the title should give most a clue as to what is planned. For example, I don’t take “fuck and suck” cam shows – if a guy wants me to suck his dick, it ain’t gonna happen.
He gets sent back to the dispatcher. Nothing wrong with what he wants, it’s just not what I do. Same holds true for anything underage, regardless of who is in the dominant position, along with any scenarios that place me in the role of victim. It’s called domination cam sex because it’s about female domination of the submission seeking caller… and I am the female doing the dominating.
Domination & The Weak
As many kinks as there are which fall under the heading of BDSM, there are even more opinions on how things should be done and why they are… from the most basic technical, all the way up to deeply philosophical.
Since there is no one sourcebook that all of this is based upon, individuals and groups go their own way… with some general agreement with regard to responsible behaviour and overall tolerance.
Personally, I’ve found the sum of these opinions to be a mixed bag – some great, some okay for others, yet not for me, and some flat out stupid.
This is particularly true when we come back to the paradox I’ve been talking of recently – there are many beliefs held by certain portions of the BDSM community that true dominant personalities not only would not agree with but at times find flat out ridiculous.
Sometimes I think the intentions are good ones, regardless of the results… but other times I am reminded of how the weak often attempt to empower themselves and their wants through some sort of legislation ~laughs~… trying to corral the strong to fit what is comfortable to them.
One concept that comes to mind right away is the notion that a “dominant” has to experience things first as a “submissive” to “know what it is like to be the bottom.”
I suppose that is all well and good if you are a fetish role-player, especially one into S&M – it makes sense that if you see the other side you can better relate to it and better understand limits/effects… so for those thinking that way, for that reason, no complaints from me because we aren’t “into” this for quite the same motivations and your viewpoint fits your specific wants.
But the “dominant” I am referring to – the true dominant personality – just has no interest in, or stomach for, the idea of submitting in any way.
The idea isn’t so much uncomfortable as it’s more offensive, or just plain irrelevant, never coming to mind and being dismissed as a bad joke if suggested. And sexually… it’s just not a turn-on. Like everything else, one’s sexuality is linked directly to one’s personality and fundamental nature.
Some try to say things like – “if you are dominant than you should be strong enough to submit and handle being dominated by another”… but that just ends up being proof of the convoluted nonsense and doublespeak that feeds the paradox I’ve been speaking of… some sort of re-valuation of the greater idea of “dominant” to fit the wants of people who fall short of the word’s deeper meaning.
Why would I lower myself from what I am, when I am happy with the person I am, and happy existing within the truth of myself and my instincts.
The weak always try to empower their ideas by saying that if you don’t do what they do, or agree with what they believe, you must somehow be afraid. I don’t like lima beans… but trust me, I don’t have nightmares about them… they just aren’t me… and I don’t have to eat a bowl of them to re-convince myself of that or prove myself to any dim-witted nobody.
Personally, I have never had the urge to not be in control sexually. I’ve been in, shall we say, “neutral” positions – when I have had sex with other dominant females – where the two of us enjoy one another on somewhat equal terms… but in those cases, none of what D/s brings to mind is involved.
It’s just heavy, intense, lesbian sex… just imagine a pair of dominant women fucking each other hard and you’ve got the idea. But submission… dominant individuals like myself are not drawn to such things. And when it comes to men, all of my sexual urges are driven by domination alone.
What I Look For… and Don’t
Now don’t get me wrong… in what I’ve written so far, I’m not throwing scorn at everyone who just dabbles in BDSM.
So long as people enjoy themselves in a responsible way, they’ve got no problem with me.
For that matter, there are people into strictly sexual forms of domination who are quite exceptional and skilled at what they do, including some that are good friends of mine. My issue is more with “fakes” who want to be seen as more than what they truly are… and those who play at the submissive role but really want to do what is called “bottom-top”.
It annoys me to see weak people walk around with attitude thinking they are “supremely dominant uber lifestylers” just because they learned the basics of how to use a dopey flogger or know what “Shibari” means.
People in the real world don’t give a shit about any of that… and when you come into conflict with a truly dominant personality in that real world, the truth you’ve been hiding from on your little BDSM websites and in leather vest-wearing enclaves is going to fall on your head.
You love taking on a dominant role in sexual play… go for it, enjoy it and be the best you can at it… but don’t delude yourself into thinking that role means you’re dominant by nature. The first step in true dominance revolves around self-mastery… and the first step in that is honesty with yourself.
As a dominant female, it’s insulting to see such fakes claim to be on my level. It’s further insulting to see my personality type somehow generalized to include such people. I admire those who strive to make themselves more than what they are – who seek to earn and achieve, for that is a sign of strength. But I resent people who seek easy, hollow routes to power and success.
It also annoys me coming into contact with “subbies” who want to tell me what to do. It’s that whole “gift of submission” thing, mixed with what turns into them somehow being the “top” in the equation…With me allegedly there to serve their need to serve ~rolls eyes~.
Common as this sadly is, it makes me ill and is an automatic path to rejection by me.
I’m not talking about people who want to ask questions first. Those who have concerns they wish to discuss or who simply want to be safe in what they get involved in –
if anything that is a good sign (so long as not ridiculously overwrought, or deceptive). Not everyone is into this as a lifestyle… for most, it’s something enjoyed as a single part of their life and they try to keep the proper perspective in how they enjoy it.
That’s not a problem with me so long as that person is honest and respectful. Cop an attitude though and your ass goes out the window… start trying to dictate or impose and you’ll get laughed at on your way down to reality’s pavement.
Everyday people who enjoy BDSM on a strictly limited, only sexual level are perfectly fine and can be quite enjoyable for someone like me.
Actually, most people I meet in these circles have this outlook, and there are plenty I have enjoyed thoroughly, some of which I’ve taken interest in beyond a simple moment’s distraction.
My concern when considering someone is that they be an honest person and possess a bit of a wild side… that they aren’t smothered in hang-ups and issues… that they have a basic understanding of what they are getting into, and if not, that they are open about this with me and seek to learn… that they don’t get lost in what we are doing and forget about reality, responsibility, and obligations… and the obvious – that they will damn well respect the person I am and show that respect for me constantly.
CBT – Blasphemous Ball Torture and “Bible Thumping”
Many of you out there have already come to realize just how much I love cock and ball torture, and ballbusting… well, all kinds of BDSM and sexual torture actually, but CBT has a special place in my cold heart.
Whether it’s stapling a foreskin shut… full removal of scrotum hair by yanking with tweezers… ornamentation of cock with hooks and bangles… weight training… clothespin designs… cock bondage… stitching a scrotum to the inner thigh (next time I do that to someone in person, I will post a pic… even an ugly ball sack can look beautiful when stitched right )… or whatever the hell else my delightfully twisted mind comes up with, I find the male genitalia to be an endless source of oh-so-interesting possibility.
And that brings me to a domination webcam sex session that happened not so long ago, one with a guy who is great to work with when it comes to CBT style masochism…
I happen to have one toy that I call my “Bible Thumper”. While we were in chat recently, a friend IMed asking me where that name came from.
Now, depending on the subject, I don’t always get into talking about my sessions, but in this case, it’s a funny story and I don’t intend on getting too deep into details, so I am going to share it.
So… one night he and I are having a femdom CBT session that is building nicely to the point where things are going to get good and evil. He had his balls tied up… had written on them with a ballpoint pen… beat them with a rubber spatula… dripped hot wax all over his entire package and then melted it off with a candle… when I had him go get some thumbtacks…
Now, these were new tacks, and he wiped them with alcohol, then spread out on a table. I told him to put his balls on top of the tacks, which being the good boy he is, he immediately did. I asked if he had a good-sized hardcover book nearby and then said to get it and smack his balls hard with the book, driving them into the tacks.
This was followed by him opening the book to put his now very hard cock inside and slam it shut… and then his cock on the tacks to be slammed down on them just like his balls were.
Sometime within this series of events, in between him “ow-ing” (and loving it)… and me laughing (and really loving it I asked him what book it was that he grabbed.
And he replied, “Ah… the Bible.”
To which I busted out laughing.
There’s just something so bad, and so fantastic about that answer.
I asked him if it was intentional and he said no, it was just the first thing he grabbed… but I’d like to think some greater force was involved.
The Demoness Mistress takes one more step deeper into the fiery abyss she’s come to embrace as her ultimate fate.
And don’t worry my Bible Thumper… if in the afterlife you find yourself deep down below, I will let you sit at my feet, where I will continue to torment you ever more horribly, thoroughly enjoying myself for all eternity.
You See… domination Cam sex and femdom CBT… part of my path to a wonderful future, south of heaven.
Follow the BDSM bricked road…
We never got the chance to head into any serious ballbusting, but I was well pleased with that night’s results… and there is always time for more CBT sadism in the future… and like the little picture next to my name below suggests… ballbusting is never far from my mind ~grinz~.
Black Leather Boots Worship
I don’t just wear them when I go out… or when I plan to fuck someone. I often wear boots when I am alone, simply because I love the feel of them so much.
I tease myself with them – they make me hot too. Trying one on – sliding it up to my leg slowly… working afoot all the way in… smoothing with my hands… stretching the leg out as I lay on my back… twisting my foot from side to side to look at that lovely high heel.
I’m not even trying to cock tease you right now ~laughs~ I’m getting myself worked up. This is a fetish I truly share with all of you.
Thigh-high boots are just like dominant women – sexy and powerful… and made for worship. The perfect tease, they can make any cock hard… most from just the thought of seeing a leather-clad woman walk in those high heels… especially when the woman has legs as long as mine.
5′ 10″ tall… that’s me. Men crawl to worship my legs, and the sight of these long beauties encased in a pair of crotch high leather boots can make any man weak in the knees.
I am pure fucking power with boots on – female domination personified – and I can either kick the shit out of anyone who angers me or seduces any man I desire.
Black boots with high heels, a short leather skirt, tight top, and a long, matching leather coat and gloves. And if you know me at all, you already know I love to carry a whip or crop with me when I’m out.
More like cock ownership. Worship will come easily to you… each boot, each leg, each foot… and I will guide you in the finer points of what pleases me.
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