I have had relationships with women that have been on somewhat equal terms. These have been with ladies who share a similar lifestyle to me, and much the same general outlook (with other, more “vanilla” girls, it always ends up with me dominating them, even if that isn’t something they claimed to be into, or what I was necessarily seeking to have. It’s just something I can’t help.
Even when I’m not actively attempting to force my will on a girl, she just starts moving towards a more submissive role anyway on her own. I can’t help who I am or how people naturally react to me, and I’m not going to alter my behaviour when I am just being myself…so now I just let nature run its course since it’s going to either way ~laughs~).
Overall, I have found these relationships to be quite rewarding, though by that I’m not trying to imply that my involvements with submissive women have been anything less — both are wonderful, just not in the same way. There is a big difference between someone who is your partner and someone who is your slave.
As with all the sex in my life, these relationships with more like-minded/willed women have also been very intense in the bedroom, though not that inclusive of BDSM, since the related roles and activities are often not appropriate considering the partners involved. Instead, the sex has been of the more “traditional” lesbian form, but very heated and usually a tad rough on both sides.
I like to dig into sex in a somewhat animalistic way when the mood takes me, and the partners I pick in these cases almost always share that penchant, or fast discover they do. The art of humiliation and domination is something I enjoy and will continue to use in all of my relationships
When we have included others, then BDSM usually comes fully into the picture as we both enjoy the slave(s) together, pushing each other as we push the limits of our prey. In the same way, I have paired with other women in BDSM clubs to work as a team on a bound submissive. I like audiences… both for the deserving applause I receive, and the added rush of the crowd’s attention and its effect on the subject.
I have a strong pull to exhibitionism and as a result, have no problem doing things in public that would shock most people terribly. I used to like BDSM clubs a lot for this reason, but as time has passed, most of the more public ones have come to bore or disappoint me.
They can still be amusing, but when in the ones that allow some degree of performance and active involvement, I don’t have quite the same urge to participate that I did when I was younger (when I didn’t legally belong in them, but oh fucking well).
There are a few places that can still be good, especially during private parties, but I think I’ve become a little jaded. I still very much enjoy playing with and fucking (me “pitching” only) both men and women in front of an audience, be it fully in public, a private gathering, or just before the eyes of a single another person, even a slave. I don’t think that’s something that will ever change with me. Check out the erotic world story
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I’ve led pets on leashes through the streets and in the parks of New York City… actively participated in the Folsom Street Fair… I wear full fetish clothing out in public… have had slave’s openly attended me in restaurants… brought sissy entourages out with me when shopping for clothes… walked hooded puppy boys and girls, playing fetch with them, leaving them tied outside shops.
I’ve entered… received cart rides from pony girls (particularly this one hot as hell tall blonde that was so deeply into it all… fucking shit thinking about her ~laughs~)… regally strolled uptown streets escorted by collared male slave guards… engaged in a wide variety of public sex acts centred on my strap-on fetish… directed public masturbation performances… and on stages or rooms in clubs, I’ve done most everything allowed — within reason and the bounds of what fits my preferences… plus much more. Public activities, for me, take things to another level.
For some, it’s the thrill of exposure, the taboo nature of the act, the excitement of seeing the disapproval, disgust or sometimes unexpected interest in the eyes of others… but for me its more the pushing of the envelope, the open display of confidence and command, and the challenging of accepted standards as I do whatever the hell I want regardless of the viewer’s shock, embarrassment, or objection.
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